Have you ever had to work with a Tyrant? Someone who is so overpowering they just push everyone else aside?
Based on my Communication DNA model these are the Powerful Communicators. To learn more about them click here.
Powerful Communicators usually end up in positions of leadership, management and decision making. Why? Because they love control! This does not make them great at leadership however. It takes a very self-aware person to be an awesome leader.
They are likely The Powerful style who loves problems and challenges, craves results, is very black and white and can come across as confrontational and even aggressive. Such people can be highly opinionated to the point where the only opinion that can exist in conversation with them is theirs!!
Powerful Communicators are very good at saying “No.” They know what they want and they go for it. They are driven by results and often mow people over to get to the result
Such a strong Communicator has absolutely no issue with boundaries and looking after their own interests. Most of them don’t even realise how much they can come across like a bully at times. They honestly think every one else finds it just as easy to say “No,” when needed.
However, here is here it gets interesting, Because they are such strong Communicators and can be so confrontational mostly people don’t actually say “No” to them! So they get this false sense of reality; thinking there are no issues. They go on their merry way, leaving this wake of people with bruises.
Now I spend much of my training and coaching time helping people become assertive so they can effectively deal with a Tyrant or Powerful Communicator. You may be having a stroke right now at the thought of dealing with someone so assertive and direct.
The key is communicate with them in their way, be direct! The amazing thing is, it works! Powerful and Strong Communicators need to be Communicated in a strong and direct way. They get it and even more importantly they respect it. The trouble comes when people avoid them and are not direct with them.
One of the keys to great communication is adapting your style to your listener. So if you are reading this I am sure you are becoming more aware, more conscious and enlightened each day so you understand that even if confrontation scares the heck out of you, it is the best way to be understood by a Strong Communicator.
Best of all they don’t see it as confrontation, I promise. Just have a go, remember don’t be rude, stick to the facts, use ‘I’messages, be assertive and you will get through to that Powerful Communicator.
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Until next time, Connect, care be conscious Communicators.
Lets change our world for the better one conversation at a time.