Have you ever experienced poor communication? I bet you have……. We all have.
One of the foundation problems is that most people do not know their needs as a Communicator, if you don’t know what you need how on earth can you ask for it?
The best Communicators know what makes them tick, they know their Communication DNA, what makes them who they are, what makes them tick.
So, how can you understand your Communication DNA?
This is the foundation skill we teach to people and teams that want to improve their ability to communicate personally or professionally.
Communication is not taught in schools, not at university, after a Behavioural Science and Psychology degree I still did not know what my needs were as a communicator.
Where did you learn how to speak up? Apologise? Listen, give effective feedback, have a difficult conversation, motivate someone different from you?
If you don’t know your needs, then how can you know the needs of others?
Personally we are attracted to the opposite communicators than us. So if you are a reserved quiet communicator that craves harmony, you are more likely to be attracted to a driven loud, outspoken confident communicator.
People we have the least in common with as a communicator we choose to spend our life with. Now this is wonderful when you understand the strengths and difference and see your differences as complimentary, but if you don’t understand each other, you are heading down a very painful road.
There are 4 Communication DNA types and we each have all four but have stronger preferences in 1 or more. For example;
The Powerful Communicator is driven like to take control, they are seen as a driver and is motivated by results.
The Playful Communicator tells stories is distracted and gets easily bored. They are story tellers, use many words to explain a quick point, and are seen as a talker. They need to be liked.
The Patient Communicator is quiet, agrees even if they don’t agree, and will not get involved in any perceived conflict, they are seen as a observer. They crave harmony.
The Perfectionist Communicator is into details, can be outrageously organised loves to do lists and is a neat person. They are seen as an analyser and need to be Right.
Just imagine the chaos when you don’t understand each other?
It is so common as we are not taught this is schools, many of us learnt his after having gone through a loss or trauma in our relationships.
As a Manager still did not know my needs as a Communicator. It took a workplace gossip session in the loo where I found my team on a character assassination all about me to begin to see that I was being misunderstood. I have also gone through the very painful experience of divorce before I realised how my personal communication could really improve.
I have been there before, I have struggled, I have been mis represented, confused people, offended people and not understood why until I understood my Communication DNA.
If you relate to this, what can you do? Know your strengths and know the strengths of those on your team, learn what makes you who you are, what makes you tick, your strengths and challenges.
If you would like to understand yourself as a Communicator and learn your strengths then perhaps you may like to read The Enlightened Communicator, available for you to review at your own pace.
If you would like to know more about how to learn what your Communication DNA we can work with you to assist you to understand exactly what it is that makes you tick. We can also help you understand what makes others tick and how to get the best out of your relationships. Interested? you can get more information here.
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Until next time, Care Connect and be a Conscious Communicator
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