Dealing with a Procrastinator?

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Patient and stabilising communicators …

My passion is teaching people how to communicate authentically and effectively in any situation. Today we will focus on the patient and stable communicator.

This steady gentle style is one that is warm, welcoming, all about relationship and somewhat more reserved than the playful or powerful styles.  They can really struggle with procrastination, they like to change at their pace, if at all.

These guys are all about consistency, predictability and people.  There is no doubt you would have someone with this style in your life, as this is the most common communication style.

This style is often described as the glue that holds us all together.  While the Powerful style is trying to control things and make decisions the playful style is all about fun, the Patient style is consistent, caring and loyal.procrastination

This style craves predictability, they love processes if someone else sets them up, they will follow the right leader to the very end, and they are committed to their cause.  They will work quietly without the bells and whistles to get the job done.

Don’t expect noise and fan fare.  They are reliable and work to a slower and steadier pace.  They will not cause an uproar and are not likely to speak out against things.  These guys will avoid conflict like the plague, are slower to speak up and want everyone to get along.

I am surrounded by this gentle style, as it is the complete opposite to my powerful and perfectionistic traits.  This style is calm, serene, and peaceful.  They don’t get easily flustered and have the best poker face around (they rarely show their emotions on the outside).

When this style is understood they are a loyal team member; they promote calm and stability and will work tirelessly for a cause.  When misunderstood they can seem quiet, uninvolved, avoidant even passive aggressive.

Change is a really big issue for these guys, they crave consistency even if it is destructive.  They are quite like the ostrich putting their head in the sand thinking the issue will just go away.  As you may imagine, facing an issue and trying to work through with this style, can be extremely difficult.  The harder you push the more they shut down.

However, as it is with all of the styles each of us brings our own unique strengths to the table.  The patient and stable style brings about much needed calm and consistency, without them it would feel like utter madness.

If you are a patient communicator and are struggling checkout our resources page or contact us with your specific questions.  For training to learn more about your style and how to get the most out of your relationships the get in touch.

If you would love to understand yourself or others more then why not learn about your communication DNA.

Until next time, Care, Connect and be a Conscious Communicator

Let’s change our world for the better one conversation at a time

3 Comments

  1. KMSAuto Net on 19/07/2016 at 03:23pm
    Start with some quick, small tasks if you can, even if these aren't the logical first actions. You'll feel that you're achieving things, and so perhaps the whole project won't be so overwhelming after all.
  2. Kylie Warry on 20/07/2016 at 08:15am
    I completely agree, good advice.
  3. Kylie Warry on 20/07/2016 at 10:10am
    I think my main aim in this article is to ensure that we bring the best out of our procrastinating friends when working or living with them. There are things we can do that will only make it worse, such as pushing, getting frustrated, demanding, criticising, all of these things while easy to do will to help the situation. However, encouraging, supporting, reminding them that they can do, focussing other many strengths, all of which will help them move forward. Continue to care, connect and be conscious communicators. Let's continue to change the world we live in one conversation at a time.

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