We all have different communication DNA styles. They are a combination of task or people focused and then outgoing or reserved. Powerful and Direct styles are action based, outgoing, task focused, results oriented and for the rest of the population they can be quite challenging. If this is your style, however, chances are you are not even aware of the effect you can have on others.
This person is motivated by the challenge, they love to solve problems can be highly competitive and extremely strong willed. If you want something done, give to this person. However, be aware they may leave bruises. These guys really have no idea how straight down the line, no fuss, in your face they can be. To the average person they can come off at times as aggressive, even like a bully. Sadly this is not their intent at all. They are just after the result and if people get in the way, then that’s where the damage can occur.
This is my strongest style and I have been known to mow people down in the supermarket, I literally don’t see them. I am focused on the task and the task is to complete the shopping. It’s not to say “Hi”. To see who I know, to window shop. No, its get the items bag them and get out of there! I have had friends come up to me days later and say they felt really upset when I ignored them, I honestly did not see them. This style gravitates to leadership and management roles where they can make decisions and have control.
Unfortunately unless enlightened they can cause trouble for those in the workplace that have a more people focused, gentle approach. We will discuss this in more detail in coming editions. It’s just because they are so fast paced, quick thinking, decisive and you got it – different from you.
So, in summary, the dominant, Powerful and Direct styles are after results, they don’t mess around, they are straightforward, task focused, they like to make decisions, are big picture thinkers and think their way is the ONLY way. They can come across as aggressive, competitive, sometimes bossy and harsh. However, they get loads done, are goal focused and won’t give in.
Don’t be too hard on a Powerful and Direct style if there is one on your world, they really have a good heart and don’t realise how pushy and direct they can be at times. Why? Because I don’t think anyone has been courageous enough to tell them! Next time we will look at the full of fun, people focused style.
If you are a Powerful and Direct communicator and are struggling checkout our resources page or contact us with your specific questions. Perhaps you’ve been told you are difficult t to work with, or you are just not connecting with others. Perhaps you tare wondering why your colleagues won’t approach you or work with you. You may have even been told to get help. For support and training to learn more about your style and how to get the most out of your relationships visit www.teamology.com.au
Until next time, Care, Connect and be a Courageous Communicator. Let’s change the world we live in one conversation at a time.
