What is your most significant conversation? I believe it is the unrelenting chatter in your head.  This is a unrelenting and misunderstood significant conversation may don’t even know about. Last time you were introduced to your chatter box.  This is the unrelenting chatter that is with you 24/7.  The voice in your head.  If you haven’t read this then check it out here.  We then delved into fear and how this fuels the chatter, you can check that out here.

Then we talked about understanding your chatter.  What are your fears?  What holds you back?  You can check that out here.

Fear fuels the chatter if you let it go unchecked.

But the amazing fact is;

“Whatever you tell yourself, you’re right!”

So whether you are telling yourself you are an awesome public speaker, or you are telling yourself you suck, you’re right!

This is where you need to challenge the chatter.  Catch yourself mid chatter and define the nature of the chatter.  Is it helping me or hindering me?  A helpful chatter sounds like, “You know you can do this, just keep going, you’ve got this”.

Unhelpful chatter sounds like, “Who do you think you are?  This will never work, of course you are going to stuff this up!”  Which chatter is more inspiring?

Once you have CAUGHT yourself – C

Determined is it HELPFUL or HINDERING you – H

You can take ACTION – A

And TAME THE CHATTER – T

Then you have used the 4 step process – C H A T.  You have had a good old chat with yourself to ensure you master your chatter and achieve those things you have been aiming for.  This process becomes quite fast with practice.  You find yourself checking in and challenging the chatter whenever it is not helpful.

Next time we will talk about how to challenge the chatter further.

Until next time,

Until next time, Care, Connect and be a Courageous Communicator.  Let’s change the world we live in one conversation at a time.