Help!!! Why do I do that??? This is a very common question I am asked.  As a speaker, trainer and consultant many times people say, “why do I do this?  Why do I talk too much?  Why am I so pushy? Why do I avoid people?  Why am I such a perfectionist?”

Being completely honest everyone has something they do that baffles them.  It may not have originated as an issue for you but it has surfaced in your relationships.  Whether at work or home, it causes you issues, pain, frustration.  Perhaps you have been told at work that you need to speak up and you just don’t know how.

Perhaps you have been told you can be selfish and when you hear this you are really confused because you really care about people and want to be liked.  Perhaps you have been told you are controlling and you think you are being helpful.

These are all valid concerns – each of another or us at one time or another has gotten less than positive results when we have been connecting with others.  Whether you have felt misunderstood, ignored, judged, baffled by the response of others, all of these experiences hurt.  Really hurt.  Each time you are hurt you are more likely to recoil and not try again.

Slowly but surely a gap forms.  This gaps grows and becomes harder and harder to close.  Soon you may feel unsure of how to connect with certain people, fearing a similar outcome.  You may avoid certain people or situations at work.  Perhaps you are not progressing through the ranks or accepting more responsibility due to this fear.   Perhaps you have lost a friendship or didn’t get that new job.

You are living beneath your potential!

How would you like to know what makes you tick and why you do what you do?  How would you like to know how to use these strengths to improve your relationships????

Amazing huh?  It’s so easy to do, you just first need to understand yourself and how to get the most from your strengths.  If you can relate to this and would like to know what you can do please check out our website for resources, training and encouragement.  You deserve to get that promotion, that new job, more responsibility, to be able to speak up and to say ‘No”.

At Teamology we are completely committed to your success so join us and learn more about your strengths as a communicator and maximise your unique potential.  Please share this with anyone you feel may be encouraged or may need some support.  Check us out on Facebook if you haven’t already and join our encouraging community.

Until next time, Care, Connect and be a Courageous Communicator.  Let’s change the world we live in one conversation at a time.