The Powerful and Direct Communicator and emotion. Let’s just go back and be re acquainted with the lovely Direct style.
Remembering the basics is important. Firstly; we all have different communication styles. They are a combination of task or people focused and then outgoing or reserved.
Powerful and Direct styles are action based, outgoing, task focused, results oriented and for the rest of the population they can be quite challenging. If this is your style however, chances are you are not even aware of the effect you can have on others.
This person is motivated by the challenge, they love to solve problems can be highly competitive and extremely strong willed. If you want something done, give to this person. However be aware, they may leave bruises.
These guys really have no idea how straight down the line, no fuss, in your face they can be. To the average person they can come off at times as aggressive, even like a bully. Sadly this is not their intent at all. They are just after the result and if people get in the way, then that’s where the damage can occur.
As for emotion, this style does not readily show emotion, with the exception of ANGER. They still feel sadness, fear, worry, frustration, guilt, joy – all of these, but may not let you in. They are too busy chasing down their goals and getting RESULTS.
The Powerful and Direct Communicator needs to be careful of not taking care of themselves emotionally. They may not get much support because they don’t appear to need it. That being said, of course they do, they are just like the rest of us.
This is my strongest style and I have experienced over and over and over….. I can come across as soooo efficient, and I am not great at asking for help so I tend to do it myself, or seemingly bark orders. It’s just me being focused and efficient, not rude as it may sound.
When it comes to getting things done, I need help too and need to ask for help, but I am not great at this. I am practicing, it has become a necessity.
Powerful and Direct styles may offend and may get worn out as it does seem like they need no one and are super able to get stuff done. Yes they are incredibly efficient but they too need help and support. Even the strong ones need support.
If this is you, or someone you know, be aware of this inability to ask for help, learn to accept that even you need help at times. Hey, you may even get MORE DONE!! Please don’t be offended if they appear aggressive, this is their focused business, efficient voice speaking, they don’t mean to sound so harsh.
If you are a Powerful and Direct Communicator and you feel like sometimes you are misunderstood, why not learn more about your strengths and how others may perceive you? It is such a great investment in yourself. You can learn more by reading “The Enlightened Communicator”. It can be purchased here. Also keep an eye out for a new service we are introducing shortly on how to understand your style.
Until next time, Care, Connect and be a Courageous Communicator. Let’s change the world we live in one conversation at a time.
