The Powerful and Direct Communicator And Emotion

chat_guys_w640The Powerful and Direct Communicator and emotion.  Let’s just go back and be re acquainted with the lovely Direct style.

Remembering the basics is important.  Firstly; we all have different communication styles.  They are a combination of task or people focused and then outgoing or reserved.

Powerful and Direct styles are action based, outgoing, task focused, results oriented and for the rest of the population they can be quite challenging.  If this is your style however, chances are you are not even aware of the effect you can have on others.

This person is motivated by the challenge, they love to solve problems can be highly competitive and extremely strong willed.  If you want something done, give to this person.  However be aware, they may leave bruises.

These guys really have no idea how straight down the line, no fuss, in your face they can be.  To the average person they can come off at times as aggressive, even like a bully.  Sadly this is not their intent at all.  They are just after the result and if people get in the way, then that’s where the damage can occur.

As for emotion, this style does not readily show emotion, with the exception of ANGER.  They still feel sadness, fear, worry, frustration, guilt, joy – all of these, but may not let you in.  They are too busy chasing down their goals and getting RESULTS.

The Powerful and Direct Communicator needs to be careful of not taking care of themselves emotionally.  They may not get much support because they don’t appear to need it. That being said, of course they do, they are just like the rest of us.

This is my strongest style and I have experienced over and over and over….. I can come across as soooo efficient, and I am not great at asking for help so I tend to do it myself, or seemingly bark orders.  It’s just me being focused and efficient, not rude as it may sound.

When it comes to getting things done, I need help too and need to ask for help, but I am not great at this.  I am practicing, it has become a necessity.

Powerful and Direct styles may offend and may get worn out as it does seem like they need no one and are super able to get stuff done.  Yes they are incredibly efficient but they too need help and support. Even the strong ones need support.

If this is you, or someone you know, be aware of this inability to ask for help, learn to accept that even you need help at times.  Hey, you may even get MORE DONE!!  Please don’t be offended if they appear aggressive, this is their focused business, efficient voice speaking, they don’t mean to sound so harsh.

If you are a Powerful and Direct Communicator and you feel like sometimes you are misunderstood, why not learn more about your strengths and how others may perceive you?  It is such a great investment in yourself.  You can learn more by reading “The Enlightened Communicator”.  It can be purchased here.  Also keep an eye out for a new service we are introducing shortly on how to understand your style.

Until next time, Care, Connect and be a Courageous Communicator.  Let’s change the world we live in one conversation at a time.


Inside The Mind Of A Powerful and Direct Communicator

car-door-79744319490_xlarge-2 Today I am going to let you inside the mind of a Powerful and Direct Communicator.  I want you to imagine that you too are a Powerful and Direct Communicator just for a short moment.  How do you feel when you are in a hurry, stressed or frustrated and your lovely partner opens the door for you???

Every other style is probably saying, “Awwww isn’t he lovely”.  However the flustered, practical, rushed Powerful and Direct communicator is thinking, “I don’t need you to do this, I am in a hurry, you are wasting precious time!!!!”

Powerful and Direct Communicators are all about the TASK.  THEY are not focused on RELATIONSHIPS so much.  They come in way down the list.  The to do list, the projects and the challenges are at the forefront of their mind.

I am sharing this with you so if you are living or working wit this Communicator you can catch a glimpse of the world from their perspective.

I noticed this very situation one day when my loving man was accompanying me to the car.  We were on our way somewhere, we were on the verge of being late and he wonderfully accompanies me to my side of the car, walks in front of me and opens my door.

Inside I am screaming, “what the heck are you doing?  I am perfectly capable of opening the door, now we will be late for sure…..”.  Then I stopped and thought about the same situation from his perspective.  A very valuable exercise to do.

My Husband is an Playful and Influencing Communicator, he is all about RELATIONSHIP.  He is a very warm and caring man and for him when he opens the door for me he is showing me care, love and respect.  It was really Enlightening for me when I got out of my rush and impatience and took the time to see things from his perspective.

There are many other examples when the Powerful and Direct Communicator can get too caught up in the apparent urgency of the TASK and forget about the impact on the people around them.

Perhaps fascinating to others, it is completely unintentional on their part.  So, if you are struggling with a Powerful and Direct Communicator, don’t take their impatience to heart.  They have a timeline, an urgency and a drive for productivity within them that is hard to understand.

If they behave in a way that does not seem appreciative please don’t personalise it, they really don’t mean it.  Try to see what the task is they are trying to accomplish and their behavior may make more sense to you.

Until next time, Care, Connect and be a Courageous Communicator.  Let’s change the world we live in one conversation at a time.