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The Conscientious Communicator And Emotion

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P1030198v1The Perfect and Conscientious Communicator and emotion.  Lets just go back and be re acquainted with the lovely conscientious style.

This amazing style is all about procedures, processes and perfection.  The Perfect and Conscientious Communicator works to a system or order.  If there is not a good system they will develop their own system or order.  However, this style will work to someone else’s system or process if they agree with it, or if they see it as correct.  If their work is changed or corrected, they will ask why?  Their work is always completed to their base level of perfection so what could possibly need to be changed?

This communication style is all about getting things right.  If you know someone with this style, they are more reserved and task focused.  They are great at details, probably love stationary, (known from personal experience), and are highly organized in many ways.  They tend to work in highly technical or exacting work environments.

In workshops its evident who the Perfect and Conscientious style is as they are the ones who find any spelling errors or grammatical issues in any handouts or workbooks, (not that there is that many…..).  Gotta love them!

These guys are fearful of their work being criticized, how could they not be when perfection is their benchmark.  Beware of criticising their work as they put a lot of effort into it being right.  It hurts them intensely if they are corrected, especially if it is not done gently.

The emotion they show most often is worry or anxiety, they put a lot of pressure on themselves, you know, to be right, to be perfect.  It’s not easy; in fact it’s impossible.  On the surface this style may not seem to show emotion, they may come across as distant, even aloof, but they feel deeply.

So, if you are dealing with a Perfect and Conscientious communicator, be sure to be kind and respectful when you give feedback, be diplomatic and have your facts and figures straight.  Stop and think, what it is like for them to be expecting to be perfect all the time, what a burden.

Consequently, if they come across as judgmental or overly critical, they are actually trying to help.  It may not feel like it but that is their intention.

If you are a Perfect and Conscientious Communicator and you feel like sometimes you are misunderstood, why not learn more about your strengths and how others may perceive you?  It is such a great investment in yourself.  You can learn more by reading “The Enlightened Communicator”.  It can be purchased here.  Also keep an eye out for a new service we are introducing shortly on how to understand your style.

Until next time, Care, Connect and be a Courageous Communicator.  Let’s change the world we live in one conversation at a time.

 

The Patient and Steady Communicator And Emotion

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glue-pixabyThe Patient and Steady Communicator and emotion.  Let’s just go back and be re acquainted with the lovely stabilizing style.

The Patient and Steady style is one that is warm, welcoming, all about relationship and somewhat more reserved than the inspiring or dominant styles.  These guys are all about consistency, predictability and people.  There is no doubt you would have someone with this style in your life as this is the most common communication style.

This style is often described as the glue that holds us all together.  While the Powerful and Direct style is trying to control things and make decisions, the Playful and Influencing style is all about fun, the Perfect and Conscientious style is all about systems and perfection, (more next month) and the Patient and Steady is consistent, caring and loyal.

This style craves predictability, they love processes if someone else sets them up, they will follow the right leader to the very end, and they are committed to their cause.  They will work quietly without the bells and whistles to get the job done.

Don’t expect noise and fan fare.  They are reliable and work to a slower and steadier pace.  They will not cause an uproar and are not likely to speak out against things.  These guys will avoid conflict like the plague, are slower to speak up and want everyone to get along.

In terms of Emotion, these guys can be a hard nut to crack.  They don’t tend to show emotion.  Sad face, happy face, same face. These guys are the poker face of the styles.  Why?  It’s mostly about protection.

This style feels things really deeply, in fact they may feel things the most, however they don’t show it unless they feel incredibly safe and secure. You cannot push this style to show themselves, they have a backbone of steel.  They also do not like confrontation or conflict so will happily avoid it, often to their own detriment.

In the wrong conditions this style has made procrastination and avoidance an art form.

If you are a Patient and Steady Communicator and you feel like sometimes you are misunderstood, why not learn more about your strengths and how others may perceive you?  It is such a great investment in yourself.  You can learn more by reading “The Enlightened Communicator”.  It can be purchased here.  Also keep an eye out for a new service we are introducing shortly on how to understand your style.

Until next time, Care, Connect and be a Courageous Communicator.  Let’s change the world we live in one conversation at a time.

 

The Playful and Influencing Communicator And Emotion

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rba1_03The Playful and Influencing Communicator and emotion.  Let’s just go back and be re acquainted with the lovely Influencing style.

The Playful and Influencing style is one that is warm, fun and engaging.  These guys are all about relationship and having fun.  If you know someone with this style they can range from warm and friendly to zany and the life of the party.

This style does not care so much for organisation, rules, processes, work – it is simply not exciting or fun enough.  As you can imagine, if you work with this style and don’t understand them, you could be having some frustrations.  These guys are very good at motivating and energising people to do the work, not necessarily doing the work themselves.

The most common emotion these guys show is Optimism.  They are very friendly and trusting.  Something they need to be aware of because not every one deserves their trust.

This Playful and Influencing style is all about recognition and are very much about people.  So if someone hurts them, it can cut deeply.  They may not show it though as they usually have so many options, they will quickly move onto the next friendship crucial.

This can actually have a stronger affect on the people in their lives who feel left out.  Don’t take it personally if your Influencing friend is there one minute and gone the next.  They do care, they just need to socialise to stay alive, it is truly like their oxygen.

The Playful and Influencing Communicator really has no idea how fickle they can seem when they move onto something new.  They truly do not mean to hurt your feelings.  So if you ever feel like this, it is important to share with them openly and kindly how you feel.  It is crucial to be kind, they need a warm friendly style of feedback.

When this style is understood they make such great friends and teammates, when misunderstood they can seem selfish and self-centered.  Like all of the styles, we need to understand the differences and work on how we can best unite to bring out the best in all of us.  We all bring something special and unique to the work and home environments.

If you are a Playful and Influencing Communicatorand you feel like sometimes you are misunderstood, why not learn more about your strengths and how others may perceive you?  It is such a great investment in yourself.  You can learn more by reading “The Enlightened Communicator”.  It can be purchased here.  Also keep an eye out for a new service we are introducing shortly on how to understand your style.

Until next time, Care, Connect and be a Courageous Communicator.  Let’s change the world we live in one conversation at a time.

 

The Powerful and Direct Communicator And Emotion

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chat_guys_w640The Powerful and Direct Communicator and emotion.  Let’s just go back and be re acquainted with the lovely Direct style.

Remembering the basics is important.  Firstly; we all have different communication styles.  They are a combination of task or people focused and then outgoing or reserved.

Powerful and Direct styles are action based, outgoing, task focused, results oriented and for the rest of the population they can be quite challenging.  If this is your style however, chances are you are not even aware of the effect you can have on others.

This person is motivated by the challenge, they love to solve problems can be highly competitive and extremely strong willed.  If you want something done, give to this person.  However be aware, they may leave bruises.

These guys really have no idea how straight down the line, no fuss, in your face they can be.  To the average person they can come off at times as aggressive, even like a bully.  Sadly this is not their intent at all.  They are just after the result and if people get in the way, then that’s where the damage can occur.

As for emotion, this style does not readily show emotion, with the exception of ANGER.  They still feel sadness, fear, worry, frustration, guilt, joy – all of these, but may not let you in.  They are too busy chasing down their goals and getting RESULTS.

The Powerful and Direct Communicator needs to be careful of not taking care of themselves emotionally.  They may not get much support because they don’t appear to need it. That being said, of course they do, they are just like the rest of us.

This is my strongest style and I have experienced over and over and over….. I can come across as soooo efficient, and I am not great at asking for help so I tend to do it myself, or seemingly bark orders.  It’s just me being focused and efficient, not rude as it may sound.

When it comes to getting things done, I need help too and need to ask for help, but I am not great at this.  I am practicing, it has become a necessity.

Powerful and Direct styles may offend and may get worn out as it does seem like they need no one and are super able to get stuff done.  Yes they are incredibly efficient but they too need help and support. Even the strong ones need support.

If this is you, or someone you know, be aware of this inability to ask for help, learn to accept that even you need help at times.  Hey, you may even get MORE DONE!!  Please don’t be offended if they appear aggressive, this is their focused business, efficient voice speaking, they don’t mean to sound so harsh.

If you are a Powerful and Direct Communicator and you feel like sometimes you are misunderstood, why not learn more about your strengths and how others may perceive you?  It is such a great investment in yourself.  You can learn more by reading “The Enlightened Communicator”.  It can be purchased here.  Also keep an eye out for a new service we are introducing shortly on how to understand your style.

Until next time, Care, Connect and be a Courageous Communicator.  Let’s change the world we live in one conversation at a time.